Three calls that shaped my life
From today I decided to share my short speeches here that I delivered at my UB Toastmasters public speaking club… Before I jump my speech let me introduce my community briefly. Toastmasters International is an educational organization that helps improve people’s communication, public speaking and leadership skills in English. Find out more with this link. Before the pandemic we used to meet at American Corner library, due to lockdown we’re meeting every Saturday at 2pm via Zoom. Follow our page and get more information about our further meeting.
“Three calls that shaped my life”
It was in 2005, I was crying over little things as usual, while I was making such a sensation the phone ranged and my grandpa answered, the call was from an ambulance. Right that time he looked shocked and could not move his body nor said anything. The only thing he managed was punched me for the first time ever. I couldn’t understand what was happening but I stopped cry, instead I saw my grandparents were crying for the first time ever. My brother has had a serious illness, so each year he had to get treatment in UB. So it was his usual treatment period and my brother and mom had a car accident while they were coming back to hometown.
After the accident call, grandpa accused me of this misfortune. As the bad accident happened because I cry constantly over little things, like I called bad spirit to my family. After a few days I could see them paralyzed on bed at the rehabilitation unit of the hospital. At that time, I was praying to god every single night begging for my mom to be healed so that she could walk again, and take my life instead.
I spent a half year blaming myself, If I were a good daughter, if only I hadn’t cried easily on everything, this nightmare wouldn’t have happened. During that time I was completely hopeless and my school grade dropped as well.
After a long time and on one sunny day, my mom and brother have finally recovered and came back from UB and it was the happiest moment of my life, I felt like I was on top of the world. I went to the airport to welcome them, mom hugged me tight and the big tear drops were falling spontaneously from her eyes.
But this time it was happy tears. That night she told me honey it’s not what happens to us, but how we react to it that matters.
Friends, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
2nd call that changed my life lies back to 4 years from now. During that time I was in South Korea and about to study there, but one morning I received a call from mom and she said my grandmother suffered from stroke and they were struggling to take care of her. That night I made up my mind to come back to Mongolia, whatever happens “I’ll take care of her, it was time to repay her unconditional love.
So I bought a ticket immediately and flew to my hometown. It was the wisest decision I had ever made because my beloved grandma, who had raised me since I was little, had passed away 4 months after I took care of her. From that experience I realized I haven’t lost her, she will live on through me. Her legacy will continue through my work, and because of her I will know how to love my family selflessly, the way she loved us. She always will be my motivation to fight through struggles, act without fear, smile through the pain, to dream bigger and make those dreams come true.
The last call that shaped my perspective was from the boy I used to get along. Back in 6 years now I met a guy who is the smartest and the most humble person I have ever met. After few months of relationship, I started to see that the way he is too smart and outstanding made me feel myself as too small and dumb. He was such a spiritual being, always acting like enlightened thus I suddenly ended that relationship. He was keep calling me, fortunately I answered his last call and said that I wanted to break up and wished him to find someone who truly loves him and live happily ever after, surprisingly he replied that he was and will be whole and happy all the time being single, he just wanted to share all these abundant happiness with someone. His last advice was so touching and reminds me of my worth all the time. Which was: “Relationships don’t guarantee happiness, but remember that you must be loved and deserve happiness. Make sure that if you can’t feel those with someone, don’t rush, stay independent and whole.
Dear friends don’t miss the calls that might change your life, whether it is sad or happy.
